Being a mother has been the best thing that has ever happened to me, but I never expected to feel the way I did after having my son. Depression was the last thing on my mind, I knew things would change but not the way they did, little did I know it was all due to postpartum depression.
You hear that “you will get used it” or “motherly instincts will kick in” well not for me. It took a while for me to even understand what was happening and being away from my family at that point was not helping either. It is a serious thing and I hope people understand what happens before judging any new mother out there. These are some of the things nobody tells you about postpartum depression.
- You get overwhelmed, not a little but over the top. You start second guessing whether or not having a child was the right thing and if it was the right time.
- You are angry, cranky and hate everyone for no reason. You don’t want to see anyone, go anywhere and even having conversations with others doesn’t help at all, you either snap back at them or just don’t listen to them.
- Feeling over-emotional. You cry non-stop for no reason and comes out of nowhere throughout the day.
- You feel empty, like you don’t know yourself anymore, nothing seems to make sense and as much as you try to figure out why, you can’t think of anything. Not a good feeling at all.
- Everything feels wrong, you think you’re supposed to be doing something but you think it’s wrong. Like being confused and as much as you want it to feel right, it just becomes really difficult.
- You keep lying to yourself that that’s how it’s supposed to be and that every mother goes through it, and that it’s your new reality, but it’s not.
- When your child cries or needs attention, it’s like a blur you ignore the cries sometimes, making you feel guilty but it’s not your fault.
- A lot of fatigue, like major tiredness, you can’t sleep even when you try to, eating also goes out the window.
- Loss of appetite yet you know you’re supposed to be eating for strength.
What do you think?
Hope this gets to help anyone out there who is going through this and to just let them know that there is help, and the faster you know about it, the better you will feel after getting some support. Also for the families around those who might be undergoing postpartum depression, be there for them support them and help them to get the advice they need and if you want to read on how to be a good mother,find it here.